Long wait before dating exclusively
The article was about whether or not 3rd date sex is the “new normal.” I was amused by one comment in particular.The woman was claiming victory because she and her guy have been dating 6 whole weeks and they agreed to be exclusive after date 5. Then they get it home and try it on and it doesn’t quite fit or work properly. Why is this person so quick to make the sacrifices that commitment requires? Since sex and sexual issues are one of – if not the – leading causes for break-ups/divorce, it’s kind of a big deal.
you ready for something like that or do you still want to date other people??? She'd do it all over again in a minute without hesitation. i don't think a month/6 dates is long enough to give up.Also making her proud was that she laid down the law about how she wouldn’t have sex until they were exclusive. Now, I can’t think of a bigger recipe for disaster than this. To agree to swear off all other partners when you don’t even know if this particular person will satisfy you is a huge risk. But let’s examine the bigger issues of exclusivity and commitment.A man who does this is hard up or doesn’t like/care about sex or doesn’t think it’s a priority. Why would someone commit after a handful of dates/weeks? “I’ll agree to stay with you for as long as this works or until I meet someone else.” Commitment, true commitment, does not include or involve takesies-backsies. Call me cynical and jaded all you like…I think the shelf-life of a relationship that starts off like this or where exclusivity is decided upon within the first month is very brief.The number one rule of dating is to never assume that you’re exclusive with a man until it’s confirmed.Donna Flagg, a communications expert and author of Surviving Dreaded Conversations, said, "A woman should never assume her beau is exclusive.