Dating during custody battle
Once you choose to take on that battle, what happens next? How do you prepare for your custody evaluation and the entire process? A divorce attorney, a custody evaluator, and two Solo Moms who survived the evaluation process weigh in.Their experience and advice will help you understand some of the ins and outs of a custody battle.* “The biggest issue is cost,” Jennifer Kouzi, a founding partner at Kaminer Kouzi & Associates LLP, explains.In an already difficult situation, you are not going to want to add stress to your situation or to have any other surrounding issues affect your emotional standpoint as things move forward.
Chances are, whether or not you believe that the new person in your life is the right person for you, the weight of pressure placed on a new relationship at this time may eventually be too much to deal with.
Your spouse’s discovery of your interest in another woman or man (as the case may be) could unravel a settlement as to custody.
The sudden or unexpected “insertion” of another “parent” figure in your child’s life is often experienced as a threatening disruption by the child’s other biological parent (or your spouse’s own parents); and many spouses react to such a threat by insisting that the child be totally insulated from a new girl- or boyfriend.
If you are looking to get the best results for yourself and your family after the divorce, it is in your best interest to abstain from anything that could make it appear like you have questionable morals. You’re already engulfed with a large amount of emotional turmoil at this time and dating will only increase the tension between you and your spouse.
If you do decide to pursue a relationship, you should consider the possibility that your spouse, possibly enraged at your actions, may take every measure to make your divorce proceedings go as negatively as possible for you.